Home Decorating

I’m on a home update buzz at the moment!

Last year my other half build in wardrobes in our room – they’re fantastic. And we painted the room and got new bedcovers. This week I have been picking up the finishing touches, such as cushions and lamps. I’m very excited with all the little bits and pieces. We are also discussing changing our bed, our bed is a fantastic wooden bed but we’ve had it for years and years and we’re thinking a change could be good. So I was online last night looking at DIY bed designs, he had a few ideas himself so between us we’ll come up with a great design so really looking forward to that. Now the way things work in this house is that we will get around to do it over the next few years – but at least it will go on “the list”!

We also have a new suite of furniture coming for the sitting room. Its a second hand sofa coming from a bit of a barter system, my hubbie has given this couple a hand out with a few odd jobs around their house and they mentioned they had ordered a new suite of furniture and putting theirs up for sale. I’m using the new suite as a great reason for a sitting room revamp! We have been living here for almost 8 years, and even though we have repainted the sitting room, it has been roughly the same colours – creams and browns really. So I want to brighten it up a bit. I’m hoping to add splashes of yellow throughout, from the cushions to curtains, to maybe a wall or fireplace. I really have to decide on the details still. I have picked up a few of the cushions already. We have beautiful wooden build in units in the two alcoves, so they won’t be changed, it is more a paint and colour revamp!

And the two kids rooms are getting makeovers too. I had told Princess P that Baba Z would be sharing her room with her once she turned 2, which she now has. So I have decided I’ll do up the room a bit before putting her in. Also Baba Z still sleeps in a cot in our room, and I don’t really want to put her in a bed that she can get out of so I think we will either be waiting, or putting the cot into the room. And then the Boy was feeling left out, so he’s getting a mini makeover – new bedcovers and curtains, and a couple of accessories. Little things that will hopefully make a big difference to the overall impact!

I’m very excited about it all at the moment, and am planning all the rooms in my head!

Everybody is different

I have come to realise that my mental health is definitely linked to two different factors – my home and my body size. By my home I mean the mess and disorganisation. These bother me hugely these days.

I was in a friends house last weekend and her house is beautiful, fully finished and fully organised and spotless, and that spurred me to get a move on with more organisation in my house. I also started looking at bits and pieces of finishing touches for some of the rooms, and putting plans into place, so I’m hoping that will all help with the house.

But we also got to talking, and I was saying I was a bit “not myself” at the moment, and that I know its because I’ve put on a bit of weight around my tummy since Christmas. She thought it was interesting that it bothered me so much, because she was saying that when she was at her skinniest for her friends weddings, it make no difference to her feelings or happiness than when she was at her heaviest. Whereas I notice my weight/size at every part of my day, and it affects me.

It really got me thinking how different we all are, and how different things affect us differently. It shows that we need to look at what is important to us, and what affects us and then try to make our lives fit in accordingly. Not to think that what makes one person happy will work for us.

I think this is also important for new mums and people around new mums to understand. I have a lot of new mums around me at the moment so it is in my head. Even last week I was at playgroup and talking to two mums, one with a newborn and the other has older children, including a teenager. This experienced mum was saying to the new mum that this time with a newborn is the best time of your life and to enjoy it, but I was getting the feeling that the new mum was actually started to get a bit antsy and maybe a bit bored because she’d mentioned thinking about starting doing a bit of work again soon. The other mum was saying not to even think about it and just enjoy this time with the baby.

While I agree personally myself that you should sit under the baby and enjoy every moment, I also understand the mundanity and boredom that comes with a newborn when you only have one child (it all changes when you’ve older children, and you’d love to be just able to concentrate on the newborn!). I myself was back working for our family business when my first baby was a few weeks old. I regretted it afterwards but at the time it didn’t phase me.

I think one mum pushing the other mum to just enjoy the baby, if that mum isn’t enjoying all the time with the baby, can make her think that there is something wrong with her feelings and with her. I think we all need to make sure if we’re giving advice to a new mum, or anyone really, that you allow that person to know that it is just your opinion and they could find something else works for them. And in general, just to remember we are all different and what works and affects one person might not another.