- Ignore most of the advice you get given. Listen to what people tell you and thank them, and then decide what you liked about the advice, and what suits your parenting style and ignore the rest. Don’t let it get you into a tizzy if they are giving advice that doesn’t suit what you are doing – we all parent differently.
- Go with your gut. Trust your instincts. Relatively straight forward, but they say a parent knows best – if you think there is something wrong, follow up on.
- You are the perfect mother to your child. You are the only mother they know, so what you are doing is right for them.
- A new addition to the family – first or fourth – throws your relationship around a bit. It needs to adjust and resettle with the newly updated roles.
- Don’t believe other people’s highlights reels and compare yourself. What people tend to post on social media is the best bits and don’t mention the bad and crazy bits. Don’t look at your every day chaos and think that other people have it all together based on their social media posts!
- Don’t take offence easily. People generally tend to mean well – and own using their own knowledge/experience as a base. For example if someone says “your bump is huge” they are seeing it from their experience and maybe everyone in their family have tiny bumps when pregnant. Same for big babies, small babies, loads of hair etc. It is all relative – don’t let it bother you!
- Everyone has an opinion. From the minute you get pregnant, everyone feels they can offer you unsolicited advice. Instead of letting it annoy you, try and see that they are interested and caring about a new life being brought into the world, and often it brings back memories of their own special times with their children.
- Enjoy it. It passes so quickly. Your baby or child will never be as small as they are today.
- It is hard. And the hard parts feel forever when you’re in it. But they pass too.
- No one has it all sussed out completely or perfectly.
- Make mummy friends. Make the effort to get out to the breastfeeding groups, the parent and toddler groups, etc. And make an effort to get to know other mums.
- Join the online groups for your birth month to have a network of other mums that have a baby at the same stages as yours, one of them will be going through the same as you!
- Be open about how you are feeling. You never know who else will open up to you if you do. We tend to bottle up our feelings, and that affects our mental health. If you can open up when you’re starting to feel down, you can often get ahead of a downward spiral. Support is so important.
- Be kind. You don’t know anyone else’s story and what they might be going through. You being kind might actually change someone’s day.
- Don’t judge. Everyone is doing their best. In their own way.
- Babies are amazing. Little miracles that grow inside us. They are so small and precious. Treasure your time with them. Cuddle them. Hold them. Love them.
So for the last week every day, bar one I think, I have done the 5 minute mini workout.
5 squats, 5 lunges, 5 push ups, 5 calf raises and 5 tricep dips.
Simple and easy, and I achieved it!
Might seem small and almost insignificant to someone who goes running or to the gym or exercises lots. But for me, its a first step… its a huge step and a really positive start for getting my healthy habits on track.
I have heard it a few times this week – that the first step is the hardest to take. I have taken the first step, and I have started.
Now I just have to build momentum and stay going, and add to it and improve.
I’m very proud of myself!
So, it now count down to back to school, and I’ve realised that the last few months have just disappeared and I’ve really not done very much to work towards my health goals… so this week I’m going to start getting back on track. With a few small steps.
I am going to try to:
- Drink 2 litres of water a day
- Bed by 11pm
- Up by 8am
- Listen to a meditation
- Do Dr. Rangan Chatterjee’s 5 minute kitchen workout each day
Looks like a simple enough list to complete, but even though I went to bed last night around 10.30pm it was midnight before I got to sleep because the baby decided she was getting up instead of going to stay asleep, which meant I didn’t get to bed by 11pm and I didn’t get to listen to my meditation, and I didn’t get up this morning until 8.30am because I was so exhausted (and actually went back to bed for a quick nap at 10am!)
But today is another day – and I’m going to do my best again!